Why aren’t children afraid to look in the mirror?????????
Why aren’t children afraid to look in the mirror?As children we are quite fascintated by our reflection, we will talk to ourselves, pull faces, even KISS our reflected image. So what happens that can make it painful for us to love our image back?
I have worked with clients who don’t have a mirror in their home. When I have brought out my mirror (which I always have handy in my car) a client can find it confronting and incredibly hard to look in it, they do not like what they see and are in effect rejecting themselves. Usually our body changes can be hard to accept especially as we move from our teenage years, have children or after menopause.
I would like to share with you the story of one of my clients who did not have any mirrors. It was a huge step for her to have me in her home, and I honour and respect her courage for inviting me to work with her.
There were tears at first as I gently asked her to look in the mirror and asked her what she saw. She was not at all kind to herself as her tears flowed, and the woman she saw was not the one I could see. So what happened? A distorted perception of reality? Lack of self love? Or simple overwhelm of a past confronting life experience? I will leave that as her life story.
What I CAN tell you is by the end of our time together she was able to stand back from the mirror and LOOK in it, albeit a little shyly but I saw a different woman, she stood taller, prouder and her eyes were shining, she was meeting her newer self for the first time. POWERFUL!!! It was a privilage to witness.
Let me say no age is a barrier to losing our own self love for ourself. It can happen to us at any time, our life experiences usually dictate when. There are few blessed beings out there who have truly embraced themselves and have self acceptance of their human form. We think all models do, but do they? We are told they are the ‘perfect image’ of the human form and we should strive to BE like that. Really?? How realistic is that? 0.0001% roughly, NEWS FLASH no one is THAT perfect!!!
If we view our bodies as temples or as bomb shelters that is HOW we will treat it, AND ourselves! At times we can be our own worst enemies.
My job is to help someone discover themselves from the outside in, there is a shift, a new self belief and a letting go of the old. To anyone who has had the courage, I admire you.
TODAY I ask you to go to the mirror and see WHO is there.